Your friends are getting married and you too, feel the same and it's time to tie the knot. However, deep inside you thought, you are not sure if you are ready for this life changing event. As a wedding planner in Singapore, we often get asked about these pre-wed emotional remorse and if it's normal to experience this.
Unfortunately, we can't usually provide assurance for these question because we are not the one getting married. However, there is no right or wrong answer to this question. This is because only you can answer that question yourself. However, we've prepared a list of 3 important questions that can perhaps help in your quest for a firm answer.
Knowing You're Ready to Settle Down
By the age of 25, you'll start to see many photos of your friend's proposal and marriage photos and invitations. This is normal. Instead of succumbing yourself to peer pressure, whether it's coming from social media or your family, it is important to know that only you can decide whether you should tie the knot.
Instead of getting married just for the sake of it, you should be ready to think of some hard questions. Are you ready to spend the rest of your life with your current partner? Would you be able to adequately provide for your new family? Are you well financially?
Marriage > Wedding
Weddings are nice and fun. It's where you get to spend some time with your friends and family cheering over one of your important milestone. However if you're planning to get married just for the wedding then perhaps you're not ready.
This is because marriage is not only about the fun and joy. There are going to be challenges and hardship that will come trying to break the marriage bond you have. Would you be able to overcome this together with your life partner? Is there enough willpower to go through these challenging time together?
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Like any relationship, lack of trust can hurt the relationship. If you trust your partner, your bond with your partner will be stronger.
Most people correlate the level of trust with how long they've been in their relationship. This is usually not true and hence many made the mistake of entering the relationship on the basis of duration.
It is important to know if you can trust your partner. Do you believe he or she will be able to provide for you and your family? Will he or she be able to help you overcome challenging time together? Aside from these, you must be able to know about your partner well too. Do you know about her shortcomings and despite that, do you still love him or her?
In conclusion, getting married is a personal milestone. As a wedding planner in Singapore, we understand the weight of the emotional remorse you'll have.